Elton John, 65, and his partner, David Furnish, 50 (oddly enough, they have never married but remain in a civil union, notwithstanding the fact that they could if they wanted to marry), became parents again when the surrogate mother they used to carry their first son gave birth to their second one. California law allows them to list Elton as the father and David as the mother on the child's official birth certificate. The biological mother remains unknown and they intend to keep it that way.
A source said: ‘Elton and David love this lady like a sister and they feel indebted to her for life.
‘Naturally she has been well rewarded. But her identity will never be revealed. They are over the moon.’
Meanwhile, many were "excited" that actress Jodie Foster thanked her longtime partner a the Golden Globes. Well, what of it? If she deserves it, she should receive it, but is anyone shocked to learn that Jodie Foster is a lesbian? But what took me aback was the rumor that when her sons, aged 14 and 12, turn 21 years of age, Foster will "reveal" to them who their biological father is (or, perhaps who their biological fathers are).
And in Orange County, a social experiment gone wrong:
Orange County power couple Lawrence and Kristina Dodge resided in the ocean-view main house in Monarch Bay along with their teenage daughter and 2-year-old triplet girls. Their friend, DeAun Nixon, and her four teenage children – including another set of triplets – piled into the downstairs granny pad, rent free.
The Dodges talked publicly about how they were 11 people under one roof, a family so unusual they pitched a reality show to cable TV producers. Key to the pitch was this: Nixon, 51, was the surrogate birth mother to the triplet girls sired by Lawrence Dodge, 73.
The project fell through.
Then the fantasy crumbled.
Lawrence Dodge, who made his fortune in banking, was accused in 2009 of violating federal banking regulations and was barred from the industry, a decision he is fighting. The Dodges filed for bankruptcy protection on Dec. 5, 2012 – the same day their $9.3 million home was taken back by their lender, though they remain on the property.
And the relationship between the Dodges and Nixon soured. Even before the foreclosure, the Dodges were evicting Nixon and her children from the home. She has yet to move.
Critically, Nixon has filed for parental rights for the three girls she bore with a donor's eggs and sperm from Lawrence Dodge, then 71.
So in this saga, both women were 49 when the triplets were born.
In all three cases, I just see people more concerned about themselves rather than the children. Do two men who are both middle-aged - and, in Elton's case, pushing senior citizenship - really make proper parents for two boys? I am not speaking of the homosexuality in the relationship, but it strikes me that there will be two young men in their 20s who will have at least one parent very elderly and the other approaching that status. And when they say, "Who am I?" and look at physical and psychological traits, they will not be able to know what is attributable to their mother because a California law allows the definition of mother to be redefined to be David Furnish - and the actual information deliberately withheld.
And if Jodie rewards her sons with the big reveal at 21, why should they care? Evidently, the man responsible for the sperm is unimportant if he has been kept a secret for all these years. And, if their paternal identity is unimportant, as men are they also unimportant?
And the Dodges and Nixon - at 49, the age of the women when the triplets were born, the fact that you cannot conceive naturally is not infertility - it's nature. And nature shuts down the baby factory. While Nixon somehow managed to carry the child, the eggs had to be donated.
Someone might say what motivates people like this is to - cue breathless,soaring music - the dream to be a parent and have a little person to looooooooove.
|He is going to have a helluva time losing that baby weight ...|
I have no doubt that any child of someone like Elton John will not suffer financially, but it is not all about money. Children need their parents for support when they have childish problems . . . and later when they have adult problems. You can present two people and say, "We're your parents!" but they are going to look in the mirror and know there is someone else. All of this seems to be sacrificing a child's identity to manufacture an artificial situation and call it "parentage." At least an adopted child knows it "came about" the standard way and was loved enough to be adopted. Purposely hiding parental identity and bringing the children into a situation where they might not have a parent around when the children are adults just seems terribly sad and selfish.
You know, things never seem to work out well when a woman purposely becomes pregnant to trap a man, or a teenager becomes pregnant to have someone to love her. Other than a complete act of selflessness, why would anything else turn out for the good?