Out of Order: what the Chick-Fil-A counterprotests continue to show me

Last December I had some email exchanges with a former friend regarding the homosexual lifestyle.  I related to him that I used to work with a gay man who was intelligent, articulate, polite, helpful, caring, supporting - all the qualities you would admire in a person, a true gentleman.  And this co-worker was that because that is how he wanted people to see him, because that is the person he wanted to be . . . who just happened to be gay.  The fellow with whom I worked did not see himself as a "Gay Man" who happened to be  intelligent, articulate, polite, helpful, supporting . . . he was a good person who happened to be gay.

While the former friend said he embraced the same outlook as a gay man himself, his actions proved otherwise, unfortunately.  He acted stupidly, deviously, impolitely, cruelly, and ultimately went out of his way to ensure that I would be hurt, using my own vulnerability to which he was privy in our past relationship. But his conduct did not change my outlook towards homosexuality.  I do not think a gay person is a disordered person; however, observations lead me to think that the gay community has a significant number of disordered persons within it.

The recent hoopla about Chick-Fil-A has brought this all back to my mind.  I had asked this question on my own Facebook account, hoping to get some serious answers from my liberal friends.

I ask this honestly: why don't people who support gay marriage organize something like a Starbucks Appreciation Day? It is certainly more ubiquitous than Chick-Fil-A in the United States and if they believe that support of gay marriage is the proper value, then does not a company that spends its profits to support that cause deserving of a day of increased patronage?


No answer.  As an advocate for free speech, I support the LGBT community's "kiss in" counterprotest at Chick-Fil-A - bu what was its purpose?


I read this from Ann Althouse:


Now, restaurants generally don't want anybody making out, so you've chosen behavior that would be disruptive to a restaurant's business whether the kissing couples are same or opposite sex. The form of expression is offensive and not like the old civil rights demonstrations where black people sat at lunch counters and were not served. They simply acted like customers — good customers — and the only reason it worked as a demonstration was that the store only served food to white people, the policy the protesters very successfully demonstrated was wrong. Kissing at Chick-fil-A does nothing to show what's wrong about anything Chick-fil-A is doing. It's just displaying hostility to the place.


And it's displaying hostility with kissing. So what have they done? They've perverted kissing, which should be an expression of love. Ironic, considering that the gay rights movement seeks to dispel the belief that homosexuality is perverted. 

But it seems to have gone beyond a simple kiss, as shown by this photo essay courtesy of photojournalist Ringo (warning: I have inserted a jump because of the vulgarity in language of one of the photographs:

I apologize for the last image, but I thinks it demonstrates the evil that has permeated the LGBT community.


Because, again, I do not believe homosexuals are disordered persons - but I believe disordered persons are drawn to the homosexual community, and largely in part because the community embraces such behavior as "diversity" and being "inclusive" and "tolerant," and there are few voices within the LGBT community to speak up and say, this is not proper conduct and it only serves to further alienate us.  When I see an overweight gay man in a pride parade prancing down the street in a fairy costume stretched across his sizeable girth, is that symptomatic of homosexuality, i.e., sexual attraction by a person to another person of their same gender - or a narcissistic personality disorder, schizophrenia, or the recently newsworthy histrionic personality disorder?  When the young woman in the picture above holds aloft her sign to advertise her mode of sexual expression and does so using a crude reference to the physical act, is she honoring that one facet of her humanity - her sexuality - or seeking to shock and disgust those who are not gay or, more specifically, those who follow the teachings of Jesus Christ?


If you are gay, what do you think about this?






I have gay friends and I love them.  They are my friends because, as with my former co-worker, they are intelligent, articulate, polite, helpful, caring, and supporting.  That's not "normal" behavior - it's good behavior.  As a Catholic, I do believe that gay sex is a sinful act, and as with any sin, so long as one chooses to engage in that behavior, repentance is needed.  Gays sin, straights sin, I sin - and so I work at choosing to forbear certain acts and encourage others.  That is what being holy is all about . . . and it is a continuing process.


I hope more people within the LGBT community stand up and look at people like those in the pictures and video above and say, "Just cut this shit out."  It is one thing to withhold your dollars from Chick-Fil-A, it is another to mock a homeless man or use a vulgarity towards Christ for the purpose of insulting His followers. You can be a gay person who feels disenfranchised, angry, and frustrated towards what you feel are people's and government's inability to tolerate your desire for same-sex marriage - but you can choose to show that in ways other than being an ass.


I suspect - and wrongly, I hope - that my former friend remains self-righteously smug in his animosity towards me, assuring himself that it is deserved because I am a homophobe and hater.  In fact, I am not - his homosexuality and fetishism are of little concern to me.  But his hurtful and self-destructive behavior is.  As is the same with these people above.  Lord, send Your healing.