Saturday, August 21, 2010

Manifesto


Manifesto, originally uploaded by Stephanie A. Richer.

August 2006 - a settler's cabin in Cade's Cove, in the Great Smoky Mountains in eastern Tennessee, photographed on my first reconnaissance to that area.

*** MANIFESTO ***

A manifesto is defined as a public declaration of principles, policies, or intentions, especially of a political nature. Well, I don't know how very political this will be, although there are some who might read between the lines, as it were, and presume certain subtext. Fine with me because . . . I don't care.

Let's go back to 1921. For me, that was a significant year as a young man stepped off a ship and onto Ellis Island in hopes of a better life in America. This, after managing to survive a childhood in the Ukraine with a high infant mortality rate, living a life of secret catechism in the Catholic church that would have had him killed, fighting in the tsarist army against the Bolsheviks during the Revolution of 1917, being captured as a prisoner of war in WWI, working in the coal mines of Belgium, farming in France, and finally making his way across the Atlantic. That man was my grandfather, Michael Koretzky.

I start with his story not to imply that I am anywhere near as brave as he was, but to illustrate that I come from stock that says, "Hey, it sucks here . . . let's get up and go make a better life somewhere else." And thus my manifesto, because the Better Half and I have decided to emigrate from Southern California (my observations are limited to the greater Los Angeles region, the Inland Empire, and Orange County, what you might hear described typically as "the Southland"). Our intentions (see, I met the definition of "mainfesto") is to relocate in the summer of 2011 to Knoxville, Tennessee.

Why? There is never one reason, but let me list a few here:
# 1 - The Cost of Living is outpacing the Quality of Life. I have had to take a hard look at our budget, especially after I decided to open my own mediation practice and forgo traditional "lawyering." What I found surprised me. Both of us were working hard - but not for ourselves. As self-employed people, a huge amount of income was going to tax agencies on federal, state, and county levels. We managed to make significant contributions to retirement because we had to, to offset the tax liability.

To add to that, the cost of employment was justifying the employment. How many of you know folks who pay high costs of transportation - let's go look at those gas prices, shall we? - to commute to a job that they need . . . in order to be at the job? Or daycare? Auto maintenance? Now add to that the cost of the everyday necessities of food, clothing, and shelter and I found that the norm in California was "to make it." Not thrive, but just to get by. In retrospect, this should not have surprised me, given the large number of Income and Expense Declarations I have reviewed as an attorney. The norm is to use up nearly all discretionary income and rely on credit for the things that make life worth living. For some, it can be exorbitant, like annual cruises, so when I tell you that I would say that a lot of divorcing couples have an average of, say, $75,000 to $90,000 in credit card debt, don't look skance. But for others, like myself, it's being able to take the family to a ball game, or the movies, or buy a larger television set. Sure, you can "go without" and I have done that, but I think any of us, after a while, would find that pretty depressing.

Fortunately, Mark and I don't have that credit problem, and we have significant equity in our house since we did not join that dance of multiple refinancing and equity lines of credit when house values soared. We have figured out that housing costs, as an example, are about one-third in Tennessee than what they are here. Gas is cheaper, food is cheaper, insurance is cheaper (especially no giant liability pool for auto insurance).

# 2 - To Simplify Life. I know that when people ask my husband, "But Mark, what's in Tennessee?", being the card that he is, he usually answers, "Less." Indeed, the lifestyle of the South is one that is a little more sane than here. I realize that I will never re-create the childhood I had in the Bronx where despite having limited income, we felt rich because of our acceptance of a simple lifestyle. But it is hard to live in an area where stress and tension have become such a common part of our lives that we take it for granted that we are stressed, or depressed, or "overwhelmed" - and find some miracle of pharmaceuticals to help us get through the day.

An example was when I first met Jackie Price. Mr. Price is a realtor in Knoxville who, after meeting us on a "just browsing" visit to his office back in 2006, said, "Well, talking isn't going to do you justice - let me drive you around to show you a few things . . ." Which he did - for the next two hours. But walking out to his car, he opened the door and on the passenger seat were his car keys. I said, "Jackie, you left your keys in the car!" "I know," he said, and when he saw the look on my face, he laughed and added, "Aw, no one's gonna steal it here!"

Now, crime exists everywhere. Urban decay exists everywhere. Poverty exists everywhere. Assholes exist everywhere. But, there is just more in one location than in others. What does Mark say? "Less." I long to feel a little more free, which is hard to do in an area that has basically become a paved lot from Palm Springs to the sea, and from Santa Barbara to San Diego. I want to experience and absorb some more civility, and reduce the amount of negativity that I perceive here, whether it comes from students lowering and desecrating an American flag so they can hoist a Mexican one in Montebello, or constant advertising about approving oneself physically whether it is the lap band or "vaginal rejuvenation", or just the gal who I saw drive by in a convertible Mustang with the license plate frame that read, "My other ride . . . is your husband."

#3 - The Middle Class in California is Dying. I suppose this is an extension of #1, but it is discouraging to see what was once the Golden State become so business adverse, that the middle class can no longer survive. How many of us who own our homes feel that our children will be able to purchase their own in the neighborhood where you live now? Do you feel secure that they will be able to find employment? I think Proposition 13 (for those not in the state, it is our law that limits annual raises on property tax to no more than 2%) is no longer the sacred cow that it has been because the people it affects most are leaving, and if counties and municipalities can set it aside, they will use property tax like drunken sailors to fund more government programs (I know, that's insulting to drunken sailors, because at least they use their own money).

I invite you to read a good article by, Joel Kotkin, entitled "The Golden State's War on Itself." It can be found at www.joelkotkin.com/content/00272-golden-state%E2%80%99s-w.... Mr. Kotkin does a very good job of laying out the road California has taken to make itself a leader in failure. He is hopeful that the state can turn itself around. I am not.

#4 - I Miss the Eastern Woodlands. Yes, I know the weather will not be as nice. But I want to see some green hills, not brown ones. I will put on that extra sweater when the weather turns cold - that's something I can do, at least, as opposed to remaining indoors when the Santa Anas blow and I don't feel like chancing a sinus infection.

So, February will see Casa Mas Rico go on the market. If we cannot sell it by next summer, we will lease it. I will be securing housing in Tennessee with plenty of space for guests so the welcome mat will be out for those who wish to visit.

You can ask me any questions, but know that we are dubbing this "Operation Beta Blockers," in honor of the drugs that moderate Mark's high blood pressure, a condition that prevented us from moving in 2007. Once we are in Tennessee and settled, however, we will be starting "Operation Noah's Ark" - getting the people we love to come and join us.

16 comments:

Toni said...

Welcome! We've been here 20 years and it's been home to us since Day One. Change is always difficult, leaving the familiar and all, but everything everyone says about the south is true. People just seem to be nicer, the pace is slower, and the Knoxville area is a great place to raise a family.

Would love to meet up with you once you get situated.

patrice said...

Oh, hyou are so-o-o-o-o going to love TN. While you're there, go to Chattanooga to Sts Peter & Paul RC Church and feast your eyes on Tiffany stained glass windows and Stations of the Cross that even more beautiful than the Tiffanys.
They were carved by a forgotten German woodworker. Cool priests, too.

Go to Chickamauga, a Civil War battlefield. Check out the Chattanooga Choo Choo. Have a lookout on Lookout Mountain. You will just love it.

You can do anything there you like, except, of course, root for the Lady Volunteers in College Basketball. Since you are from the Bronx, you must root for the UConn Huskies!

The Digital Hairshirt said...

Toni, that is heartening news! In what part of Knoxville are you living?

Patrice, there is no problem there - I am not a basketball fan. Ah, but football? GO VOLS! GO GIANTS!

Lazy Disciple said...

All the best, Digi!

I feel like singing "Wagon Wheel" in your honor!

LD

Kit said...

Do it!!! You'll be in striking distance by car...

Adrienne said...

How very exciting and wise. We dumped big city living eons ago and have never looked back. Knoxville would be way too big for us but at your age, it's a good choice.

The really sad thing is I remember visiting Cali 50 years ago and it was a paradise. Not any more.

Toni said...

Our home is in Loudon, about 20 min. southwest of Knox County, but jump on I-75 and it's smooth sailing wherever you need to go depending on traffic and the occasional accident. Our jobs are in Knoxville and we belong to St. John Neumann, the new Romanesque church built 1 1/2 years ago.

Will you be bringing the wonderful Fr. Moneypenny with you??

JaneDC said...

Welcome to the Heartland! I truly admire you pulling up stakes and moving all the miles you have moved. I've been in the midwest all of my life, and your CA experience just confirm my misgivings of that beautiful state.

Maybe we can organize Curt Jester's Mispent Youth Day ;-)

neenermom said...

Well DH, as an Idahoan now ten years, I absolutely understand leaving the OC for the family. My two kids have thrived here in ways I could not have imagined, and Catholic elementary and high school is semi affordable (hate to see what my alma mater MD charges now). Hopefully our mutual friend Mrs. SG can make an introduction when I come down in October before you leave for the beautiful country in Tennessee!

Janny said...

If envy were not a sin, I'd freely admit to envying you all. And you have to learn to say "you all" now, you know...

Seriously, my hub and I took a second honeymoon in the Smokies and never wanted to come back. We may still end up there when and if we're ever able to retire. Although I must say, having fled the Chicago area for reasons beyond our control and landing here in northeast Indiana, we're experiencing our own variety of "less" that largely parallels what you have to look forward to!

Prayers go with you for swift sale of the abode and easy relocation...

JB

Rick Darby said...

I totally understand your decision. There are places that are good to visit, and there are places that are good to live in. Unless you are very rich, few locations are both.

For all that's wrong with it -- and having lived in California in the '60s and again in the '80s, I know how much the quality of life has deteriorated -- I'd be happy to visit southern Cal every year. Just skim the cream off the top and not deal with the darker side.

But a calmer, less expensive, more humanly connected life can be found other places, and I suspect most are in "flyover country." The good news is that many of them, while retaining a lot of their more gracious manners and pace, are also becoming more sophisticated. You can find a variety of ethnic restaurants, yoga, imported goods, interesting architecture, theater, music, etc.

In leaving southern Cal, you do have something to lose -- it's a remarkable place -- but a lot more to gain.

Anyway, you can vacation in California if you miss it!

cuchieddie said...

Yeah, Stephanie told me that she and Mark would be coming back every other month just for leg of lamb and my delicious potato latkes. Oh yeah, and for Tito's Famous Vodka for the martini's.

gemoftheocean said...

...well, this is the post a lot of us have been waiting for.

The one big draqwback for your family will be DL not being next door.

Lily said...

Well I am late with this, but nonetheless I wish you well. I have a love of Tennessee and wished to move there over 10 years ago. To Knoxville actually. I almost got hubbins to go for Nashville a couple of years back. Now we are evaluating our options again, due to a crisis. TN is still my first choice though circumstance may keep us a bit north of there for a while.

HEATHER said...

Yay!! This is so great!
I am approx. 100 miles north of Knoxville, in London, KY. We will have to meet up for coffee or lunch sometime after you all get settled! I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE Knoxville-it's one of my most favorite places on earth!
But I am compelled to ask-won't you miss Disneyland? It seems like you go quite often is the only reason I ask.

The Digital Hairshirt said...

Heather, I'll just get an annual pass to Dollywood!