Sorry, kids. The adults have taken over Halloween.
When I was a child, Halloween was a holiday for children. We would save our pennies to buy cheap costumes at the local five-and-dime or, mostly, make our own. Adults had the job of buying candy or wrapping a couple of nickels in tin foil, and being there to open the door when we would yell, “Trick or treat!” at the top of our little lungs. Most adults were happy to see us and compliment us on our costumes. There was the year my baby brother used his All Saints Day pageant costume for Halloween, and his St. Francis of Assisi get-up – complete with the fake parakeet on his finger that he stole from my own pet’s cage – earned him extra candies from the swooning Irish housewives of the neighborhood, who were enthralled by “such a grand saint.”
I have some neighbors, across the street, who typically decorate their home for Halloween. And then, during the day on Halloween, they take down their decorations and go out that evening, leaving a darkened house that just screams, “No candy for you!” at the little urchins who come by.
What the hell, indeed.
It seems to me that Halloween is becoming more of an adult holiday than one for children.
First, in a trend starting with Christian (but not Catholic) schools, more school districts in an effort to keep church and state separate have “harvest festivals” rather than call them Halloween. So the holiday is reduced to a class party, and even then with veggie and fruit snacks, since little Octavius has that peanut allergy and too much processed sugar can result in false positive test results for ADHD.
Then, go to places like Party City where most kids locally buy their costumes. The majority falls into one of two categories: (a) sexy or (b) gory. Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate little boys’ love of all things bloody and scary – there is nothing like a good axe embedded in the cranium to lighten up a dull outfit. But it seems to me that the costumes are designed by adults with themselves in mind – how else can you explain a toddler size pimp costume? Adults seem to lose track of what is age appropriate and instead compliment themselves on how “edgy” their kids are.
I think that is the problem – the adults are not willing to be adults and abdicate the fun of Halloween to the kids. They want to prolong their own childhoods as long as possible, and amuse their friends with how far they can push the envelope with their costuming. Bars and pubs look forward to the business they get by promoting a costume party and this year – with Halloween falling on a Saturday night – you can be sure that business will be booming. After all, the kids had their party at school – don’t Mom and Dad deserve some fun?
So, what will I do on Halloween night? I am happy to say that the kids still come and I will be there waiting for them, with massive amounts of candy. I don’t even mind giving candy to their accompanying parents, who often dress up as well, because they are taking the time to slog through the streets with their darlings. And I will tell the children how great they look and compliment them on their costumes and take pictures. And wish everyone a Happy Halloween and a Feliz Dia de los Muertos!
When I was a child, Halloween was a holiday for children. We would save our pennies to buy cheap costumes at the local five-and-dime or, mostly, make our own. Adults had the job of buying candy or wrapping a couple of nickels in tin foil, and being there to open the door when we would yell, “Trick or treat!” at the top of our little lungs. Most adults were happy to see us and compliment us on our costumes. There was the year my baby brother used his All Saints Day pageant costume for Halloween, and his St. Francis of Assisi get-up – complete with the fake parakeet on his finger that he stole from my own pet’s cage – earned him extra candies from the swooning Irish housewives of the neighborhood, who were enthralled by “such a grand saint.”
I have some neighbors, across the street, who typically decorate their home for Halloween. And then, during the day on Halloween, they take down their decorations and go out that evening, leaving a darkened house that just screams, “No candy for you!” at the little urchins who come by.
What the hell, indeed.
It seems to me that Halloween is becoming more of an adult holiday than one for children.
First, in a trend starting with Christian (but not Catholic) schools, more school districts in an effort to keep church and state separate have “harvest festivals” rather than call them Halloween. So the holiday is reduced to a class party, and even then with veggie and fruit snacks, since little Octavius has that peanut allergy and too much processed sugar can result in false positive test results for ADHD.
Then, go to places like Party City where most kids locally buy their costumes. The majority falls into one of two categories: (a) sexy or (b) gory. Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate little boys’ love of all things bloody and scary – there is nothing like a good axe embedded in the cranium to lighten up a dull outfit. But it seems to me that the costumes are designed by adults with themselves in mind – how else can you explain a toddler size pimp costume? Adults seem to lose track of what is age appropriate and instead compliment themselves on how “edgy” their kids are.
I think that is the problem – the adults are not willing to be adults and abdicate the fun of Halloween to the kids. They want to prolong their own childhoods as long as possible, and amuse their friends with how far they can push the envelope with their costuming. Bars and pubs look forward to the business they get by promoting a costume party and this year – with Halloween falling on a Saturday night – you can be sure that business will be booming. After all, the kids had their party at school – don’t Mom and Dad deserve some fun?
So, what will I do on Halloween night? I am happy to say that the kids still come and I will be there waiting for them, with massive amounts of candy. I don’t even mind giving candy to their accompanying parents, who often dress up as well, because they are taking the time to slog through the streets with their darlings. And I will tell the children how great they look and compliment them on their costumes and take pictures. And wish everyone a Happy Halloween and a Feliz Dia de los Muertos!


8 comments:
Do you not have this god-awful evil in California called 'trunk or treat?' I'm telling you , it has totally destroyed trick-or-treating here in Utah. There are a circle or line of cars, trunks open and in the center, and in BROAD DAYLIGHT the little kids go round and round and round collecting candy until it is gone. In the smaller towns there are only a handful of kids on the streets after dark. Boo!
Never heard of trunk or treat. Sounds vile.
Digi,agree 100% I first noticed the takeover when we first moved to California--in 1971. I was a young teen then, 14, and "back home" kids my age were considered too old to go out for candy. [Maybe hang out on street corners and do a little tick tacking, but that's something else!]
I was stunned at the number of HIGH SCHOOL KIDS who came by the house for candy. Then when I entered the work force, I'd notice coworkers show up for work in costume. ugh. And adult halloween parties, where kids would be out of place. Creepy. The office manager is offering a 50 dollar prize to the "Best costume." this year. I think I'll skip it.
I read up on the 'Free Range' blog, it is authored by the woman who let her nine year old ride the subway in NYC alone.
http://freerangekids.wordpress.com/
It's funny, while she is liberal, a lot of conservatives really enjoy her thoughts on what it means to be a kid.
Adults took over Halloween, because yes parents abandoned it. Everyone needs to take it back, because we treat the elderly widow down the street as a pedophile because we don't know her that well. So many childless people use to enjoy the kids coming to stop by.
Sigh....
I've always loved Halloween, and admit that as an adult, I do, too.
When I was growing up, once we hit about 12, trick-or-treating was "uncool" but it was ok to dress up to take a younger kid out. (My unfortunate experience with that when I was 12 ended up with us getting "mugged" only a block or so away from my charge's house! Both me and the poor kid spent the night in tears...he'd already been out to the mall and had quite a bit of candy!)
:-(
I went again in college, none of us were part of the "party crowd" so decided to throw costumes together and head to a nearby neighborhood, after we figured the little ones were done.
Most people found it hilarious, one yelled at us as we, in vain tried to explain our intentions and assured the man we weren't interested in playing any tricks. We were trying to have good clean fun.
As an adult...yah, I still like the gory stuff, far more than I did as a kid. But I also love the Saints and have dressed up as a Saint even in secular employment when they invited costumes. (for the record was also a "gypsy fortune teller" with a blackened tooth, a dead hockey player (no gore, just no time to put anything together!), a veterinarian, St. Catherine of Siena, St. Therese of Lisieux... this year, prob. nothing.
I won't share with you my gory ones. They were fun, though. But if I had kids....I wouldn't do that, and it shocks me to no end the raunchy costumes for CHILDREN found at places like Party City and Paper Warehouse!
OK, sorry for the long comment....I'll go back under my lurking rock now...
When my son was younger... I would have him covered in a black sheet with the candy between his feet. When the kids tried to reach for the candy... he would reach towards them and scare the bejabbers out of them, they loved it.
I usually dress up to hand out candy to the little ones now... a "good" witch or a gypsy costume can be thrown together quickly from my closet.
Then if I am feeling adventurous, I might wander down to 6th Street here in Austin to watch the lunatic college students wander (or stagger depending on what time it is) by in their costumes.
I'll be home on Halloween night handing out candy...the BIG candy bars. The way I figure it, this is all about the kids and I want them to have a great time. I love to see the gasps of delight when I hand out a giant sized candy bar or package of sour patch kids.
I especially welcome the teens who come later in the evening because the way I figure it, they could be doing a lot worse stuff than trick-or-treating. I love that they could be "kids" for one more night. They are always polite and well-behaved when they come to my house. Maybe they sense that they welcome. Besides, I can alway dump whatever candy is left on them so I'm not tempted to eat it myself.
Trunk trick or treat sounds awful!
I love Halloween, and always want to do a party or something. Now that my kids are teens, they feel they are too old to dress up. This year we went to Howl O Scream and saw some scary (but not too scary) movies.
BUT I still have two big bags of candy for our trick-or-treaters, and I agree that it is a kids' holiday first. It saddens me that we get fewer kids trick-or-treating each year.
Part of this is because of parents concerned with safety, and I get that. But the whole 'Fall Festival' thing by the churches bugs me, honestly. As kids, we never attached any special significance to the day other than candy and costumes!
Agreed. Halloween has been watered-down for kids and tramped out for adults.
We are lucky to live in one of those neighborhoods with awesome trick or treat. The kind that parents bus their kids in to attend from other neighborhoods. Weather cooperating, we get about 150 kids on average.
We'll be home with buckets of candy from 6-8 while one adult takes the kids around. At 8 our teen gets her Haloween party with friends. No trick or treating for her.
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