When your child is embroiled in a custody matter in a court of law, please DO NOT SEND THE JUDGE A CERTIFIED LETTER LETTING HIM KNOW YOUR OPINION ABOUT THE ISSUES!
It is called "attempting to influence a judicial officer." It is called an "ex parte communication." It is inappropriate. It pisses off the judge, it pisses off opposing counsel, and most of all, it pisses off me, your child's lawyer. Because then I have to go and do a tap dance in front of the Court to convince the aforementioned pissed-off judge that neither me nor my client knew about your decision. And depending on the mood of the Court, my tap dance could have to become a full-cast rendition of "Riverdance." It is not a pretty sight.
Yes, yes, I KNOW the judge has not heard "your side of the story." At the risk of making you feel bad, unless you are a percipient witness to events that relate to the issues before the Court, "your side" is IRRELEVANT.
So, please - continue to love your grandchildren when they are in the custodial care of your child and do not assume the judge "is a grandparent, too" and "will know exactly how you feel."
This has been a public service announcement.